#kalamsheikh - "whats love got to do with it"
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"What's Love Got to Do With It?" by Sheikh Abu Eesa Niamatullah - Divorce
Assumption: Good Practising Muslim man, Good Practising Muslim woman, You got married for the RIGHT reasons.
Basis: Marriages are not built on love. It is built on Islam and Ihsaan to one another.
Theme: What's love got to do with it? It's nothing but a second hand emotion.
Basis: Marriages are not built on love. It is built on Islam and Ihsaan to one another.
Theme: What's love got to do with it? It's nothing but a second hand emotion.
-This is not something new
-First, what does love actually mean? It's not that fairytale that media has brainwashed us to have. All of that is superficial. It's not physicality, sexuality, infatuation, not superficial attraction.
-Islam does give us permission to separate
-This is an option from Allah SWT to Help people. To help people out of problems.
-You are supposed to fulfill half your Deen...to feel stability, to feel connected, to feel peace.
-The Jinn report to Shaytan how the misguide the believers, when one reports being able to split a man and his wife...Shaytan is happy.
-Marriage is worth fighting for when you got married for the right reasons after doing your homework on each other. We all have the ability to come together.
-Allah SWT placed between you Love and Mercy - only for the people who THINK will there be signs in this. So what does this mean? It starts with love with physicality but the body won't be able to keep up after a while. Soon she/he won't be what they used to be. Reality will kick in...finances, kids, life, etc. So the love will change, will she/he still be the one when reality kicks in and will you be able to stand it? This is the dangerous time for even practising people. You should ask this when you are doing your homework BEFORE the marriage takes place.
-No one is perfect. There may be some things that displease you but there could be many many more this that do please you and completely drown out the bad. One of the permissible reasons for lying is to your spouse in order to maintain the marital relationships. Example: If you hate her food, just don't say anything or just say that it's fine.
- love starts the engine, mercy keeps it going, rahman and sabar is the gas
-Do things for the sake of Allah SWT. Swallow the bitter pill. You got married for the right reasons don't ruin it due to petty things, have more patience.
-Men need more patience, women own patience.
-Anger or any other emotion is not a good reason. When you are about to get angry...just say...I forgive you. Then just think about forgiveness and make your heart deal with it.
-Don't be superficial men! Don't use hadith and Quran against her! If you are gonna do that prove you can do better, be twice better, twice more patient, twice more pious than her! That woman is forgiving you for everything every single day. What about you?
-If you hit her with hadith, it will hit you even harder.
-Men need to step up more!
-First, what does love actually mean? It's not that fairytale that media has brainwashed us to have. All of that is superficial. It's not physicality, sexuality, infatuation, not superficial attraction.
-Islam does give us permission to separate
-This is an option from Allah SWT to Help people. To help people out of problems.
-You are supposed to fulfill half your Deen...to feel stability, to feel connected, to feel peace.
-The Jinn report to Shaytan how the misguide the believers, when one reports being able to split a man and his wife...Shaytan is happy.
-Marriage is worth fighting for when you got married for the right reasons after doing your homework on each other. We all have the ability to come together.
-Allah SWT placed between you Love and Mercy - only for the people who THINK will there be signs in this. So what does this mean? It starts with love with physicality but the body won't be able to keep up after a while. Soon she/he won't be what they used to be. Reality will kick in...finances, kids, life, etc. So the love will change, will she/he still be the one when reality kicks in and will you be able to stand it? This is the dangerous time for even practising people. You should ask this when you are doing your homework BEFORE the marriage takes place.
-No one is perfect. There may be some things that displease you but there could be many many more this that do please you and completely drown out the bad. One of the permissible reasons for lying is to your spouse in order to maintain the marital relationships. Example: If you hate her food, just don't say anything or just say that it's fine.
- love starts the engine, mercy keeps it going, rahman and sabar is the gas
-Do things for the sake of Allah SWT. Swallow the bitter pill. You got married for the right reasons don't ruin it due to petty things, have more patience.
-Men need more patience, women own patience.
-Anger or any other emotion is not a good reason. When you are about to get angry...just say...I forgive you. Then just think about forgiveness and make your heart deal with it.
-Don't be superficial men! Don't use hadith and Quran against her! If you are gonna do that prove you can do better, be twice better, twice more patient, twice more pious than her! That woman is forgiving you for everything every single day. What about you?
-If you hit her with hadith, it will hit you even harder.
-Men need to step up more!
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