nasi goreng ain

2:39 PM

so today I was sooooo lazy to cook anything
so I just ate the ready made kinda food..like bread ? haha
plus drinking coke, nescafe surely worsen the condition for someone with GERD
yeah kind of doing all sort of things my body cannot handle :(
so you reap what you sow la kan..acute attack of sakit perut beb..
so while go to and fro the bathroom, told ain my stomach is not doing well because I have not eat, malas nak masak.
and ain being sooooo sweet today, nak tolong masakkan nasi goreng..I am sooo touched..blessed I am..thank God
thank you ain.. I appreciate your kindness..seriously :* :* :* love you buddy!
xoxo : next post should be convo, fb, conference

#kalamsheikh - divorce

1:34 AM


Aliza Kim
24 mins · Edited · 
"I'm Married, Get me out Of Here!" By Sheikh Omar Suleman (On Divorce)

Scenario: A pair who after a few months of marriage have found that feelings have changed and are now in severe hardship.

Why does this happen?

(1) No Premarital Preparation
What's needed is premarital counseling. Just like a driving test that needs both a written and practical test...a couple needs to be trained and educated.
-Being "in love" is temporary. Also there needs to be a way to differentiate between love and infatuation.
-Needs, expectations and preferences begin to become apparent after some time. Love is never enough. Love changes. Love will not get you through everything, it will not get you through every obstacle, it is not enough to work things out.
-Marriages often are not pleasing to Allah SWT so how can they survive, how can they be successful? They don't start right according to the sunnah and so problems start right away. There are many examples but one is having an extravagant walimah putting the couple in financial strain from the beginning.

(2) Outside interference - Your in-laws, parents, friends. You should never have to choose between your parents and spouse. Anyone who does this should be reminded to fear Allah SWT.

(3) Unable to communicate - They just can't talk. They feel that he or she should "just know...can't they see?" People are not mind readers. You have to tell your spouse what you feel to find solutions.

(4) Trail and Error Mentality - You cannot just try one person and if it doesn't work then go to the next. You can't do this because you are dealing with people. They are not objects that can just be switched out. There will be emotional damage.

- If you are in a marriage that cannot work anymore and you have done all you can then now you must speak about divorce as a part of Islam. PROPHET MUHAMMAD SAW ALSO DIVORCED SOME OF HIS WIVES and he was the best person who has ever lived. The sahabah also divorced. But you must divorce for your Deen not simply for happiness (although relief, happiness and peace can come from it). After divorcing this should make you better in your Deen. Don't make divorce an excuse to become lax in your religion, it should free you from hardship so it is easier for you in your Deen.
-Remember istiqarah - If your marriage cannot go on then ask for Allah SWT specifically to facilitate the exit for you then act.
**If you must separate, separate in the best way possible. Fear Allah SWT and do it in the best way you can.

LOCAL TRIVIA
-One of the highest causes of divorce in Malaysia is because women have financial independence. Women don't need to put effort to stay in a marriage due to fear of financial hardship. They are not dependent on their husband so it's easier to just walk away.
-In Malaysia there is 1 divorce every 10 minutes, some say 4 minutes.


#kalamsheikh - how to serve ALLAH together

1:30 AM


Aliza Kim
19 February at 15:21 · 
"How to Serve Allah SWT Together" by Sheikh Omar Suleiman

-We should be serving Allah SWT as a family. In this way the spouses push and support one another. Ex. Husband n wife fasting together, praying together, enjoining good and forbidding evil together. But, Usually when you get married, you get less active and more disconnected from one another. Don't use this as an excuse to slacking off in your religious duties.
-A du'a Prophet Muhammad SAW made for one of the sahabah: Oh Allah SWT don't make this marriage be a distraction (from You, from their real purpose in life) but pour your blessing on them. The bigger picture is to please and serve Allah SWT.
-Every relationship that doesn't take you closer to Allah SWT will be against you on the day of Judgement.
-Your spouse knows you best...especially the worst parts of you...they are in the best position to help you and advise you on how to become a better Muslim, better spouse and parent. Work on yourself together and your relationship together.
-Serve Allah SWT together and through one another.

Serving Allah SWT together:
(1) By first serving your spouse. Example: There is sadaqah in putting a morsel of food in your wife's mouth.
(2) Enjoining acts of Charity for the sake of Allah SWT - Going out to serve others together, be on board right away, want to please Allah SWT and Prophet Muhammad SAW immediately. Be involved together.
(3) Tahajjud and prayer - Do this together! A husband and wife who pray tahajjud together will be resurrected with a special title "the men and women who remember Allah SWT frequently".
Never take your work to the bedroom but take ibadah into the bedroom - in intimate places and times.
(4) Read Quran together and discuss religious issues together. Have deep religion discussions. Put it all together and do it all together. It's sweet and beautiful.
The relationships with the element of Allah SWT in them are the ones that will persist.

-When I do things with my spouse with Allah SWT in mind and encourage my spouse to do things together for the sake of Allah SWT, the relationship will get stronger and better, you will get through tough times together in a better way.


focus

1:48 AM

losing focus isn't good
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and I keep losing that precious 'focus'
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how? how i'm gonna be like before? back to my focus self
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I seriously need that 'focus'
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been searching for it for years
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so where are you dear 'focus'?
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I really need you
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come back to me will you?
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pleaseeeee
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I beg you
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just
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please
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#kalamsheikh - living a honeymoon life

1:21 AM


Aliza Kim
4 hrs · 
"Living A Honeymoon Life" by Sheikh Yahya Ibrahim
‪#‎marriageconference‬ ‪#‎marriage‬ ‪#‎romance‬ ‪#‎love‬
PREMISE: The best of men are those who are best to their spouse. Prophet Muhammad SAW is always telling the men to treat their women well not the other way around. He acknowledges that it is usually the men who are usually negligent.

Romance from the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad SAW:

(1) Eat together and enjoy each other's companu. Prophet Muhammad SAW used to feed his wife. He used to share every meal with his wife.When food from one of his wives dropped he still picked it up and ate it. 

(2) You should buy her something not because she needs it but because it shows her you thought about her. It's not what you buy but it was because you thought about her, yout took time from your day and enjoyment and disrupted it for her, you enjoyed buying it for her, it brings your hearts closer through this small act.

(3) You should honor your spouse. Give up your chair for her, give her priority. Be more considerate and care to your spouse than to others. 

(4) What you ask from your wife, give her. If you want gentleness from her, you must also be able to gentle to her.

(5) Express your love. Show her and show others you love her. Make it public. No need to be shy. PDA  Prophet Muhammad SAW and Aishah used to have pet names, a secret language with each other, play with one another, etc. Prophet Muhammad SAW inconvenience the whole Muslim army right before a battle to find a black string necklace that Aishah had lost in the dessert. You must show your wife you love her and give the utmost importance to her. Don't ever make her feel insignificant. The best of the believing men are those who love their wife. Say I love you often and in different ways.

(6) Be generous with your money. The charity that has the most blessing is buying things for your wife and family. Gift giving builds love for one another and appreciation.

(7) Give more than you take. Whatever you take, you have to give back more. If in your relationship you keep taking appreciation don't give back with added value...you will go bankrupt.


post exam treat - end round radiology & chest

10:26 PM

done with three exams in a row..God bless
and hermmm some good and the other just so so..but oklah, no worries..
so here the post exam treat xD
the heart to heart talk session with ira and kak hana..women talk it was;


#kalamsheikh#sis - "prepare for the marriage, not the wedding"

8:32 PM


Aliza Kim
4 hrs · 

"Prepare for the Marriage, Not the Wedding" by Sister Yasmin Mogahed
-A wedding is seen as the end of something and like we were living incomplete in some way before it. It's what we learn from young. But it's not the case.

EXAMPLES OF MADE UP REALITY WE ARE LEARNING FROM CHILDHOOD

 (1) Sleeping Beauty - Prince walks in a castle, he scans for the most beautiful girl, she is in a coma/dead so all he loves is her beauty, he decides to kiss her which is strange cos wanting to kiss a dead person is strange, after the kiss everything comes to life including her.
: Only when u are beautiful can you do something
: You are not complete, capable, and your life does not begin till a prince comes along to save you

 (2) Cinderalla - She is abused but has little woodland helpers to get her through, a passive victim of her own life, she has no power at all, then a fairygod mother gives her a beautiful dress to go to a ball, she is the best dressed and most beautiful and the prince falls for her without knowing anything about her at all.
: When you have the best dress and shoes and the most beautiful then everything will be ok,
: You are helpless, incomplete, a victim till a man comes to save you...what about God saving you?

 ISLAMIC VIEW ON MARRIAGE

 -Marriage is completing half your Deen but it doesn't mean you were incomplete before that. Take Maryam for example, she was unmarried but still one of the most perfect women.

 -People ask when you are getting married as tho they are asking - When are you gonna stop being handicapped, when are you gonna be able to fulfill your purpose as a human? Marriage is not the answer for either of these.
: You were created to worship Allah SWT. You were not ultimately created to be a wife, mother, doctor, teacher, etc...you were created to be a slave to Allah SWT. Marriage is only one (ONLY ONE) of the many ways to Allah SWT. There are many many ways to reach Allah SWT. Being a wife, mother etc is only one way...if you don't have this path, it does not mean you are not fulfilling your purpose.

 -Again, just in case you didn't hear that, Your purpose is to be a slave to Allah SWT. There are many ways to reach him. You don't need to be married. You don't need to be a wife and mother to be His slave and get into Jannah.

 -The relationship between husband and wife is just a sign or a guidance or POINTER to Allah SWT. But it is not the destination. It's just a path that could take you the Allah SWT. BUT THE STORY DOES NOT END AT THE WEDDING.Living happily ever after does not work that way. Your end is Allah SWT, marriage is just one of the means. That's it.
(But it can be a very good and very fulfilling way)

HOW TO GET PEACE, TRANQUILITY, STABILITY IN A RELATIONSHIP

 -Peace, Tranquility, Stability is what is needed in the relationship.

 -There are 2 types of love: (1) Felt love (2) Expressed love needs to be throughout the relationship. If you don't express love, then how will you get through? This is a part of keeping your relationship strong. If you don't show it or do anything to express it...if it doesn't show in your actions...the relationship will not work. (*) some other elements of love: mercy, compassion, care, empathy, also play a part in keeping the relationship going.

ALLAH SWT ALWAYS CONNECTS BELIEF WITH GOOD ACTION/DEED IN THE QURAN (A bit more on expressed love)

 -Allah SWT always connects Belief with Good Action/Deeds in the Quran. So what is in the heart needs also to be translated into action. Examples: I don't only wear my hijab in my heart...I also wear it on my head. You have to show your love if you want the relationship to keep going. Once expressed love and actions that show love stops, don't be surprised when your relationship is impacted.

THE MARRIAGE IS NOT AN END, IT IS THE BEGINNING.

 - When you see the marriage as a path and not an end then you see things differently. When you think a person will give you fulfilment, importance, confidence, happiness, satisfaction, then most of the time you will be disappointed.

 -The purpose for marriage is for your spouse to make you become a better person, to help you improve yourself, to help you get to Jannah - This is how you complete the other half of your Deen. [Your spouse will help you to built your character. Everything else will be a consequence of you becoming better. Love, romance, attraction, everything else become much stronger because of how the other person makes you feel about yourself while improving yourself.]

 -You might be giving and giving and giving and not getting anything back in your relationship. If you do it for the sake of Allah SWT...Allah SWT always Sees and Knows. People are ungrateful. If we are ungrateful to Allah SWT, what about to people. But we need to be appreciative. He who does not thank people, does not thank Allah SWT.

 -Giving vs. Taking - The Islamic Concept of Marriage encourages giving. Focus on giving for the sake of Allah SWT. If you don't focus on Allah SWT, you feel empty. When we do things for our nafs...it focuses on taking. You take and then become disappointed when the person who was supposed to fulfill you, who you thought was so great so hot, when they now are not giving you but wanting to take from you instead, this when you WAKE UP and reality hits after the infatuation phase...

YOU ARE EMPTY WITHOUT ALLAH SWT, HOW CAN YOU GIVE AND SACRIFICE WHEN YOU HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER?

 -But you are empty...how can you give, they are also empty thats why they will want to demand and focus on taking as well. You can't be anything but needy, starving and selfish when you are empty inside. Solution: Never go to another person hungry and starving....don't expect people and ask them to fill your emptiness cos they are likely empty too. Go be filled by Allah SWT then go to people full and rich. A rich person now has the capacity to give and able to give, be generous, to care, to be patient. A starving person can't ever do this. You moved from relationship to relationship begging and the other person is also begging...is it peaceful? Is it that tranquility Allah SWT is describing? No. There is no tranquility.

 -A beggar doesn't beg from another beggar...its ludacris. If you are both bankrupt it doesn't work. Ask from Allah SWT, ask from the King.

 -Don't insist on getting something from concrete (a hard person, a person who has nothing to give)...don't dig concrete! Your hands will break, bleed and you will come back humiliated.

 -Go to Allah SWT and when He gives guidance and gives to you...take! Take the guidance so that you can become rich!

 -The more we beg Allah SWT the more we are elevated, the more we beg from the people the more humiliated you become. When you beg from the king by humbling yourself in prayer and du'a, you become rich. When you are rich then you are in a position to GIVE.

 -Make your relationship with the king and keep yourself full. Do NOT get into a relationship where there is "begging" for importance, affection, attraction, chemistry, happiness, etc. If she is begging and he is begging you cannot get full, your relationship will not be strong and you will end in humiliation.

PRACTICAL ADVISE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE - Dzikr Challenge - Do 3 things daily to change your life and relationships

 (1) Solah - On time not whenever you want. Your life depends on it. The true life of your heart and soul depends on Solah on time. Allah SWT knows best.

 (2) After Fajr and Asar, morning and evening dua.

 (3) Read some Quran and reflect on it.

Your heart will become soft but protected with the dzikr of Allah SWT.


#kalamsheikh - "whats love got to do with it"

8:29 PM


Aliza Kim
23 hrs · 
"What's Love Got to Do With It?" by Sheikh Abu Eesa Niamatullah - Divorce
Assumption: Good Practising Muslim man, Good Practising Muslim woman, You got married for the RIGHT reasons.

 Basis: Marriages are not built on love. It is built on Islam and Ihsaan to one another.

 Theme: What's love got to do with it? It's nothing but a second hand emotion.

-This is not something new

 -First, what does love actually mean? It's not that fairytale that media has brainwashed us to have. All of that is superficial. It's not physicality, sexuality, infatuation, not superficial attraction.

 -Islam does give us permission to separate

 -This is an option from Allah SWT to Help people. To help people out of problems.

 -You are supposed to fulfill half your Deen...to feel stability, to feel connected, to feel peace.

 -The Jinn report to Shaytan how the misguide the believers, when one reports being able to split a man and his wife...Shaytan is happy.

 -Marriage is worth fighting for when you got married for the right reasons after doing your homework on each other. We all have the ability to come together.

 -Allah SWT placed between you Love and Mercy - only for the people who THINK will there be signs in this. So what does this mean? It starts with love with physicality but the body won't be able to keep up after a while. Soon she/he won't be what they used to be. Reality will kick in...finances, kids, life, etc. So the love will change, will she/he still be the one when reality kicks in and will you be able to stand it? This is the dangerous time for even practising people. You should ask this when you are doing your homework BEFORE the marriage takes place.

 -No one is perfect. There may be some things that displease you but there could be many many more this that do please you and completely drown out the bad. One of the permissible reasons for lying is to your spouse in order to maintain the marital relationships. Example: If you hate her food, just don't say anything or just say that it's fine.

 - love starts the engine, mercy keeps it going, rahman and sabar is the gas

 -Do things for the sake of Allah SWT. Swallow the bitter pill. You got married for the right reasons don't ruin it due to petty things, have more patience.

 -Men need more patience, women own patience.

 -Anger or any other emotion is not a good reason. When you are about to get angry...just say...I forgive you. Then just think about forgiveness and make your heart deal with it.

 -Don't be superficial men! Don't use hadith and Quran against her! If you are gonna do that prove you can do better, be twice better, twice more patient, twice more pious than her! That woman is forgiving you for everything every single day. What about you?

 -If you hit her with hadith, it will hit you even harder.

 -Men need to step up more!


#kalamsheikh - "happy feet"

8:26 PM


Aliza Kim
14 February at 06:18 · 
-After an issue, if you don't change yourself in 48 hours...you aren't going to make any changes.

-The home should be the best place. A place of reflection and happiness.

-PM (SAW) was a romantic prophet who showed his feelings at home.

-Reflect about your relationship with your family or spouse. How many of will say you have some regrets? How about no regrets? You must acknowledge that you can always be a better person.

-The best test of your character is how you behave at home with your spouse and family. At home you must be your authentic self from your soul. You must be able to do this and she must be able to do this.

-When you go home have "happy feet". Don't go home tense and don't take outside problems into the house.

-Smile when you are home.

-The first 4 seconds when you see each other after time apart (example: after you get home from work)...if it is happy, then the rest of the day together will also be happy.

-She must want to make a happy home.

-We must connect with, love, cherish our families and celebrate them.

-Make the home a sanctuary.

-Accept, Affirm, Acknowledge, Attention, Affection, Allah... for every child.

-Make the kids empowered, confident, able to go out and able to do things for themselves.

-The way you were nutured as a child is how we will view the world. We see everything as a product of our own selves. Whatever your home was like when you were small...don't make it a vicious cycle, break that cycle and make it better, make it a loving, caring, gentle, sensitive, giving, virtuous cycle instead.

-If you must be be apart for some time, part calm, part with peace so you come back together with calm and peace.

-When you go to work leave with kisses and hugs and when you arrive home arrive with kisses and hugs.

-Today, go home and tell your parents, your spouse, your kids, your family that you love them. Do it.

-Iqra...read. We are ignorant, we don't even know how to defend our faith. This is what we need as an ummah. This will help us as an ummah and as family people.

-The crucible for you is...if you pass away and your family says amazing things about you...what a husband! what a wife! What a daddy or mommy!

-Never give up. Allah SWT tests those who He loves.


#kalamsheikh - "lonely planet"

8:25 PM


Aliza Kim
14 February at 06:03 · Edited · 
"Lonely Planet" by Sheikh Yahya Ibrahim - For the single brothers and sisters ‪#‎marriageconference‬ ‪#‎marriage‬ ‪#‎islam‬ ‪#‎single‬

For lonely people

 -What makes us lonely?

-"I just want to be complete and happy"

-This talk is to empower you to be happy within yourself

-It all begins inside you...your worth, privilege, honor, the things that make you special begin with YOU.

-Begin with you. You cannot help or love others unless you love yourself. You cannot love for others if you don't first love things for yourself. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) Said for you to love your your brother that which you love for YOURSELF.

-Islamic Marriage means...2 complete people who merge into one another. You were not broken halves. So it begins with you being whole and complete first. You merge into one unit.

-Look within your heart and see what in you that you have to offer as a lego piece for life. The 2 of your are lego pieces...you can't see the perfect building till you put it together. You have to constuct the legos of life together.

-Haram is haram for a reason. Infatuation is different than love. Infatuation is seeing that person as amazing and having these strong feelings of attraction while those around you would tell you they are so wrong for you and not what you need. Do not fall into this trap. Love is very different.

-Go towards what is right because of your love for Allah SWT. Follow His guidance and commands and He will put true love in the hearts of people. He will give love to you but you have to love Him most first. You will not go wrong if you follow his commands and Guidance.

-Questionsright. To ask yourself: If you were married and had children and you were to pass away...would she and her family raise your children in the way as if you were there? Is their family structure, how their Islam is, how your household is...would they raise your child the same as if you were there? Can u give her the same or more than her family is giving her? Will her family accept you as thier own...will I as your mother and family...can we accept her as my true daughter and family member?

-Prophet Muhammad (SAW) got married at 25 years old. You are not supposed to get married early but as soon as you are READY. When Prophet Muhammad (SAW) got married he didn't just marry anyone, he married the best person he could.

-In Islam we believe in soulmates. Our souls knew each other before knowing one another before coming into this world. A righteous soul will navigate it's way to find their way, fight and get to one another. The souls gravitate one another. It like somehow from the moment you see someone, you know that person, you are comfortable with them. There is something.

-Prepare and cleanse yourself to get ready for the next phase in life.

-You will know you are READY when you are ready. But you have to make yourself ready. Take the financial, spiritual, learning, religious life to make marriage work.

-Don't act upon fear or limit yourself due to fear. Don't let it hold u back from what is right.

-Marriage is really great. It is. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) Said the best thing in life is to be married to a good woman. And what is a good woman? The woman who her husband sees her from a distance and he is proud of her, feel joy in your heart money can't buy, feel warmth, tranquility, like she is your home. You are just so proud to have her masha'allah. And when she sees him, she feels the same for him.

-Marriage is beautiful but it's hard work.

-The compromises, growing together, the sharing together, the taking turns in sacrificing together, the taking care of one another, the elbow in the morning waking you up for fajr or even before that for tahajjud, the love you have where you are willing to do things you would never ever ever dream of doing for anyone else including your parents...that is the love you will have.

-Hadith in meaning: Take the woman in marriage a woman who gives you a sense of tenderness so that you know your children will be over loved, and when you give her she gives you so much more, the women when you and she are in a disagreement she makes effort to soothe the situation and not let the 2 of you go to bed unhappy.


flight back to cairo #winterbreak2015

6:41 AM

ok now my brain functioning well dah..can blog something..I was too exhausted to do anything last night huhu..

lets storey-morey now, yes?

this time I made it :)) I traveled the way I want..
barely with only one small luggage for cargo and yes, 
me then walk throughout the journey with only sling bag, a book and neck pillow in hand..
yeay meeee!! :))

from kl-dubai..everything went well..
*oh exception for the part/fact I sit beside this one negro who snore & smell zzzzzz*

in klia, I somewhat feel like my dreams all gonna be TRUE !! 
(amin amin amin pleaseeee ya Allah)..
babe, I walk side by side to those pilots, not enought with that, I rode train with groups of pilot too!! macho babe, macho..they're loking so cool..
okay see I'm excited again..whatever lah, may that dream of mine comes true!! 
inshaAllah inshaAllah..amin ya rabb..

ok that was klia..haha..

what I noticed in those 2 flights kl -dubai, dubai-cairo is that both planes landed smoothly..
excellent lah captain! :))  and yes I really fall for the first flight pilot though did not even saw him..
bhahahaha..btw, he's a Malaysian babe!! 
the way he conducted the flight..oh maiiiiiiiii..melt babe..
but to be honest, I really like my first flight kl-dubai..everything was fine..
even the cabin crew were very nice..haha credit  to that one stewardess who'd chat to me 
indeed, i am thankful for that..she's talking to me in friendly manner makes me feel home
though i'm flying away :(( :)))) that also make me realize, no matter where i am, i would want to be with at least a "Malaysian".

in conclusion, I am very happy and thankful for this winter break..I could even feel the excitement i never had before through this journey..though it only a short break, it is enough for me to at least for a moment skip all the routine here in Egypt..I need that to breath..thank you Ayie for sponsoring me back..thank you family for always supporting me no matter what and how I'm doing..and the first and most important to be thankful is to my Lord..thank You ya Rabb..thank You ya Allah for everything..
no words can ever describe my gratefullness :))

till then ;

waiting for boarding..then off to toilet when i coughed non stop..malu beb..then i met wan athirah, a dentist student studying in jordan..shes nice too 
selfie in toilet #onboard
dubai connect..while waiting for boarding
#travelread - will always be my must do everytime flying somewhere..

a flight to remember #05february2015

7:18 AM

yesssssss yesssss another memorable flight for me!!!
it was sooooooooooooooo exciting babe!!
i smile the whole night last night *okay up to this morning tooo :DDD*
I am just so thankful that words can't describe my feelings..alhamdulillah thank God.

so here's the moment;